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100% You

Last week’s post was about me choosing to be offended by comments from my sweetheart.   Whether you’re choosing to be offended, hurt, angry, jealous, betrayed or whatever emotion is your choice today, this blog is for you.  How would you answer this question? “What percentage of shared responsibility do you have in making a …

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The Four Horsemen: The Antidotes

This article originally appeared on the Gottman Relationship Blog All relationships, even the most successful ones, have conflict. It is unavoidable. Fortunately, our research shows that it’s not the appearance of conflict, but rather how it’s managed that predicts the success or failure of a relationship. We say “manage” conflict rather than “resolve,” because relationship conflict is …

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The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness and Stonewalling

This article originally appeared on the Gottman Relationship Blog The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse is a metaphor depicting the end of times in the New Testament. They describe conquest, war, hunger, and death respectively. We use this metaphor to describe communication styles that, according to our research, can predict the end of a relationship. …

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Emotionally Intelligent Husbands are Key to a Lasting Marriage

This article originally appeared on the Gottman Relationship Blog In a long-term study of 130 newlywed couples, Dr. John Gottman discovered that men who allow their wives to influence them have happier marriages and are less likely to divorce. This critical skill is not limited to heterosexual couples. It’s essential in same-sex relationships as well, but the …

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Building a Great Sex Life is Not Rocket Science

This article originally appeared on the Gottman Relationship Blog In an amazing book titled The Normal Bar, authors Chrisanna Northrup, Pepper Schwartz, and James Witte conducted an online study with 70,000 people in 24 countries. They were curious about what might be different about couples who said that they had a great sex life, compared to couples …

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30 Days to a Brighter Life – WHY?

If you’re familiar at all with Brené Brown, you’ll understand why I say, “I HATE VULNERABILITY!” Just kidding. Sort of. Vulnerability, says Brown, is the key to human connection, “our ability to empathize, belong, love.” If you missed her groundbreaking TEDxHouston talk in June 2010, here’s the link. I’m going to be vulnerable in this post, …

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