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The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness and Stonewalling

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This article originally appeared on the Gottman Relationship Blog The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse is a metaphor depicting the end of times in the New Testament. They describe conquest, war, hunger, and death respectively. We use this metaphor to describe communication styles that, according to our research, can predict the end of a relationship. …

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Teach Your Kids the Value of Self-Care by Creating Healthy Habits

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This article originally appeared on the Gottman Relationship Blog Children, just like adults, benefit greatly from consistent and deliberate self-care activities. Even if they are not currently stressed or upset, teaching kids to regularly take care of themselves will help ensure that they have the skills to manage future stressors in healthy and effective ways. …

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Effective Parenting is More than Limits and Consequences

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This article originally appeared on Dr. Wally blog Imagine that your 5-year-old is playing with his toys when a neighbor child comes to the door asking your child to come out and play. Let’s imagine that you had established earlier in the day that you expected your son to put away his toys before he …

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Manage Conflict: The Six Skills

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This article originally appeared on the Gottman Relationship Blog Today on the Gottman Relationship Blog, we continue the discussion of Manage Conflict by introducing Dr. Gottman’s six skills of conflict management. Many of us connect all too well with comedian Mitch Hedberg’s feelings when he quips, “I got in an argument with a girlfriend inside …

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Emotionally Intelligent Husbands are Key to a Lasting Marriage

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This article originally appeared on the Gottman Relationship Blog In a long-term study of 130 newlywed couples, Dr. John Gottman discovered that men who allow their wives to influence them have happier marriages and are less likely to divorce. This critical skill is not limited to heterosexual couples. It’s essential in same-sex relationships as well, but the …

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Building a Great Sex Life is Not Rocket Science

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This article originally appeared on the Gottman Relationship Blog In an amazing book titled The Normal Bar, authors Chrisanna Northrup, Pepper Schwartz, and James Witte conducted an online study with 70,000 people in 24 countries. They were curious about what might be different about couples who said that they had a great sex life, compared to couples …

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